5 Things Every ADHDer Should Know to Avoid Despair
ADHDers are prone to negative thinking. This can drain us and cause us to despair. Nobody wants this. Every once in a while, we need a reminder to avoid negative thought traps and remember the good things in life.
1.) You Are Not Broken
The challenges ADHD causes are not because you are broken. They are the result of a world that is not wired for brains that are wired differently. ADHD is a different brain wiring; it is not a defective brain wiring. You have a good brain. You are not broken.
2.) Life Doesn’t Have to Suck
Yes, life with ADHD is difficult, but that does not mean life has to suck. Life can be beautiful. An ADHD diagnosis does not doom you to a miserable life. You can have good life. With some strengths-based strategies in place, you can learn to love life.
3.) You Can Succeed
A lot of people with ADHD have had the tragic experience of being told they will not amount to anything. Whoever has said that about an ADHDer does not know what they are talking about. ADHDers can succeed. Don’t believe me? Ask Michael Phelps, Simone Biles, Pete Rose, Terry Bradshaw, Channing Tatum, Adam Levine, Justin Timberlake, Ty Pennington, Jim Caviezel, David Neeleman, Dav Pilkey, Sir Richard Branson, Alejandro González Iñárritu, and Solange Knowles. All of those individuals have ADHD and have been very successful.
4.) You Are Loved
You are loved. Look around you. There are people who love you. Perhaps, it is your family who loves you or your friends. However, if you do not feel like your family and friends love you. Find someone else with ADHD. They will love you. If there is one thing I have learned about those with ADHD, it is that we care about each other. We want each other to succeed. We love our fellow ADHDers.
5.) You Are Not Alone
As I mentioned above, there are people out there who love you. There are many others out there with ADHD who understand your struggle. Surround yourself with the right people. Find a local ADHD support group. If you live in Sioux Falls, SD, check out the Facebook group I started. If there are no ADHD support groups around you, start one or find a digital one. ADDA has some resources for connecting with other ADHD. Lastly, if you feel you need a coach to help you with your ADHD-related struggles, I’m here for you.